EPHESIANS
CHAPTER 5.
A Warning,
Principally against the Sins of Uncleanness. Eph.
5, 1-21.
The
imitation of God excludes uncleanness: V.1. Be
ye, therefore, followers of God, as dear children; v.2.
and walk in love, as
Christ also hath loved us, and hath given Himself for us an offering
and a
sacrifice to God for a sweet- smelling savor. V.3. But fornication and all
uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as
becometh
saints; v.4. neither
filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient,
but
rather giving of thanks. V.5. For
this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous
man, who is an idolater, hath any in heritance in the kingdom of Christ
and of
God. The first verses of this
chapter really conclude the thought at the close of the previous
chapter. Paul
had there admonished the Christians to be forgiving, in remembrance of
the mercy
which had been shown them in Christ Jesus. He here adds: Become,
therefore,
imitators of God, as beloved children, and walk in love, just as Christ
also
loved you and gave Himself up for us as an offering and sacrifice to
God for a
savor of sweet smell. The Christians are children of God through Christ
and as
such the objects of the love of God. Where the proper relation obtains,
however,
between a father and his children, there the children will, both
unconsciously
and consciously, imitate their father; they will pattern their lives
after his.
And so the Christians have their heavenly Father as their type and
example of
love. God’s love toward us unworthy creatures puts us under the
obligation of
showing a similar love in our lives. As Luther has it: “The entire
outward
life of the Christians should be nothing but love.” But as God is an
example
of unselfish love, so also is Christ; He is, with the Father, the great
motive
and pattern of our love. So great was His love for us that He delivered
Himself
for us, in our stead, for our benefit; He became an offering, a
sacrifice, for
us. By offering up His own life and body on the altar of the cross He
has
succeeded in turning the good-pleasure of God to our account. For His
sacrifice
was fully acceptable to God, it rose to the nostrils of God as a sweet
smell, or
odor in remembrance of this love the apostle wants the Christians to
exercise
love toward one another; the love of Christ is to be both pattern and
spur to
every disciple.
With
the love that is shown in the lives of the Christians should he
combined
holiness and purity: Fornication, however, and uncleanness, every form
of it,
and greediness, let it not even be mentioned among you, as it is
fitting for
saints, neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are
not
proper, but rather giving of thanks. The sins which the apostle here
enumerates
are such as were prevalent among the Gentiles and would therefore tend
to dull
the edge of sensitive consciences by the very fact of their being so
common.
There was fornication, the indulging in forbidden sexual intercourse,
uncleanness, obscenity, nastiness of every description, all the forms
of
immorality indulged in by the heathen with such an air of self-evident
custom.
There was the sin of greed, of avarice, of covetousness, in which ail
the
thoughts of a man’s heart are directed upon the acquisition of vain
possessions, of filthy lucre. So utterly incompatible are these vices
with the
character of the followers of God and imitators of Christ that no
Christian
should in any way be associated with them, not one of them should be
charged to
him with even the remotest show of justice. So earnestly should
believers guard
their honor, their reputation in this respect that all evil talk will
die for
want of fuel. So pure should Christian congregations be in this regard
that not
even rumor will dare to lift its head; that is fitting for saints, for
such as
are consecrated to the Lord in their entire lives. But even the sins of
impurity
in their finer forms, where the fault is not so open and glaring, are
not proper
for a Christian congregation and should never be found in the midst of
the
assembly of believers. There is filthiness, indecent, shameful behavior
in
general; there is insipid, silly talk, loose discourse, which moves
just on the
boundary of the outright indecent and lewd; there is jesting,
frivolity,
scurrility, wittiness which is characterized by broad suggestiveness
rather than
by aptness. Instead of these things there should be found among the
Christians
giving of thanks. As beloved children of the heavenly Father they
should be kept
so busy in praising the goodness and mercy of God that they have
absolutely no
time left for such impure forms of pastime.
But
lest the Christians underestimate the seriousness of the situation, the
apostle
adds: For this you are sure of, being aware that every adulterer and
unclean
person and covetous man, who is an idolater, has no inheritance in the
kingdom
of Christ and God. This knowledge belongs to the fundamentals of
Christian
teaching, that sinners of this kind, flagrant violators of the Sixth
and Seventh
Commandments, are excluded from the riches of God's grace by their own
fault.
And the miser, the covetous person, who makes money his god, is
incidentally an
idolater, violating also the First Commandment. They have no part, no
inheritance, in the kingdom of God's grace, which is at the same time
that of
Christ: for God has chosen His own, His children, that they should be
holy and
unblamable before Him in love. Thus we have here a direct reference to
the final
certain damnation of all adulterers, all unclean persons, all
avaricious men, if
they continue in these sins to their end. Note that also in this
passage Christ
is placed on an absolute level with God the Father; the true, eternal
Godhead
belongs to Him.
The
children of light avoid the works of darkness: V.6. Let
no man deceive you with vain words; for because of these things
cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. V.7.
Be not ye, therefore, partakers with them. v.8. For ye were sometimes
darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord; walk as children of light, v.9.
(for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and
righteousness and
truth,) v.10. proving what is
acceptable unto the Lord. V.11. And
have no fellowship
with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. V.12.
For it is a shame even to speak of those things
which are done of them
in secret. V.13. But
all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light; for
whatsoever doth
make manifest is light. V.14. Wherefore,
he saith, Awake, thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead,
and Christ shall give thee light. The Ephesian
Christians, like those of every city since, were in the
minority in the city, a few in the midst of many heathen. Not only did
they have
the constant example of the Gentiles before them, but they were also
continually
subject to temptations. The sins which the apostle, for instance, had
just
mentioned as vices to be abhorred, they regarded as innocent joys and
pastimes
in which any one might indulge for a time in order to sow his wild
oats. But the
apostle warns the Ephesians, as he does the Christians of today: Let no
one
deceive you, seduce you, with vain words, with empty, foolish talk. The
people
that indulge in such talk are chiefly such as have come in contact with
the
Christian religion, but refused to be persuaded. Their smooth words are
dangerous arguments, and the Christians must not listen to them; for
because of
these sins, as the apostle once more emphatically says, the wrath of
God
descends upon the children of unbelief. This is not only the wrath of
the final
Judgment, but the decree of punishment which strikes the sinners even
in this
world. Sons of disobedience the willful sinners are called, for
disobedience is
their sphere of activity, they practice it unceasingly and thus
challenge the
temporal punishments and the eternal damnation which comes upon them.
The
apostle holds up, as it were, a warning finger: Do riot, then, become
partakers
with them; do not allow yourselves to fall back into ways which you
have
forsaken through the grace of God. For these vices are not only subject
to
punishment, as outlined above, but they deprive of the grace of God
given in
regeneration. If the Christians become partakers with the unbelievers
of their
sins, they will become companions of them also in their damnation.
Being in the
midst of unbelievers, being engaged in business with them, the
Christians must
be doubly careful lest they be drawn into the prevalent immorality and
profiteering business methods.
The
apostle brings a strong argument to support his admonition: For you
were
formerly darkness, now, however, a light in the Lord. Darkness is the
spiritual
condition of the unconverted, the unbelievers; their sphere was sin,
godlessness, transgression of God’s holy Law. But that time, that
condition,
is wholly past and gone in the case of the Ephesians. As Christians
they were no
longer darkness (which implies more than merely being darkened), but
they had
now, through the power of God, become enlightened to such an extent as
to make
them a light in the Lord. By being converted or regenerated, the former
Gentiles
had not only been removed from the perdition of the world and brought
to the
knowledge of Jesus Christ, their Savior, they had not only been filled
with the
light of the Gospel, but they had themselves become a light in the
Lord, Rom. 2,
19; 1 Thess. 5, 4. They could now not only walk worthy of the light,
but they
were able to serve as a light for others, lead others into the way of
sanctification. And Paul immediately enumerates some of the virtues
which the
Christians should show in their sphere of activity, in their walk as
children of
light: For the fruit of the light consists in all goodness and
righteousness and
truth. The character of the believers as the children of light cannot
but
express itself in this manner, they must show the fruit of the light in
their
lives. Three virtues are named by the apostle as giving the soundest
evidence of
the Spirit of light in a person’s life: goodness in all its forms,
moral
soundness and propriety, combined with active beneficence;
righteousness, moral
rectitude, which takes care that nothing and nobody receives any
injury; truth,
moral purity, sincerity and integrity as opposed to hypocrisy and
falsehood.
Thus Christian morality is described as being good, just, and true. And
in thus
giving expression to the light that is in them, in thus walking as the
children
of light, the Christians are so careful against the deception of
unbelief and
enmity against God that their attitude always is: Proving what is
well-pleasing
to the Lord. To all things, to all customs, to all forms approved by
society, to
everything that they come in contact with in life, the Christians apply
the
standard of God’s holy will. For often the difference between right and
wrong
is not immediately obvious, and therefore the spiritual man is very
careful
about judging, 1 Cor. 2, 15. The Christian’s aim in this life is to
find out
what pleases the Lord, and then to abide by His will.
If
the Christians, moreover, walk as the children of light, the apostle’s
words
will be heeded: And do not have fellowship with the unfruitful works of
darkness, but, on the other hand, rather reprove them. Light, as
wrought by the
Spirit, brings forth fruit, fruit which must be acknowledged as such
everywhere.
But the darkness, the unconverted state, the condition of unbelief, can
bring
forth real fruit as little as weeds are able to: the works of darkness
are
unfruitful, they are destructive, wicked, dead, Heb. 6, 1; 9, 14; Col.
1, 21.
The Christians will, therefore, have nothing in common with them, they
will shun
and avoid them at all times. And not satisfied with a mere attitude of
refusal,
they will, on their part, go forward to attack the evil in an
aggressive manner,
reprove them, show their sinfullness. “The idea, therefore, is that
these
Christians were not at liberty to deal lightly with such sins, or
connive at
them, or be silent about them, but had to speak out against them and
hold them
up to rebuke, with the view of bringing their heathen neighbors to
apprehend
their turpitude and forsake them.” 16)
This
attitude of the Christians is demanded all the more by the fact: What
is
secretly done of them is indeed a shame even to speak of; yet all
things, when
they are reproved, are manifested by the light, for everything which is
made
manifest is light. The secret sins which are practiced by the children
of
darkness are indeed of such a nature that they can hardly be mentioned
without
blushing; in the time when the apostle lived, the most unnatural vices
were
taken as a matter of course. Yet their naming under circumstances
becomes a
duty, as we see in the case of the apostle in the first chapter of
Romans. Thus
the secrecy of the vices here referred to is the reason why they
require to be
reproved openly; and the very fact of their being so abominable makes
it all the
more incumbent to administer open rebukes instead of silently
overlooking, or
conniving at, their presence. All the sins and vices of the heathen, of
the
unbelievers, both those that are done in public and such as are done in
secret,
are manifested, exposed, brought to light when they are reproved by the
light,
that is, by the children of light, by the Christians. The direct
reproof,
indeed, strikes only the known sins, but the testimony of the truth in
the mouth
of the Christians penetrates also into the hidden depths of the human
heart and
convicts the sinners of secret sins and vices. In support of this
course Paul
refers to an axiom: Everything that is made manifest is light. Things
that were
hidden and secret are illuminated by being placed into the light. And
thus a
person that becomes conscious of his misery, of his guilt, thereby
reaches the
point that he, by the gracious influence of God, turns away from sin,
learns to
know the mercy of the Savior, and then conducts his life in accordance
with
God’s will and becomes a light in the Lord. This will unfortunately not
always
be the result of the Christian’s testimony against sin, since many
hardened
sinners refuse to heed the warning of the Law; but there will always be
some
that are enlightened by the Spirit of God through the Word, and this
fact should
serve as a stimulus to the believers to rebuke sin and try to work
knowledge of
sin whenever an opportunity presents itself.
The
apostle concludes this section with a reference to a well-known verse:
Therefore
it is said, Awake, thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and
Christ shall
shine upon thee. This quotation is not taken from Scriptures, but may
have been
a verse adapted from the synagog or Christian liturgy of Paul’s days,
or Paul
applied a common greeting of the Jewish New Year to the situation. 17)
At
God’s call the Christian should open his eyes and, in turn, call out to
his
unbelieving, godless neighbor: With your sins you are lying in
spiritual sleep,
death, and destruction. Therefore arise from sleep, arise from the
dead; repent,
be converted! If this call works the knowledge of sin, then Christ will
give the
knowledge of salvation. Christ is here pictured as a beautiful,
shining,
flashing light. The sinner, having arisen from the sleep of sin and
death, is
surrounded and flooded with Christ, the Sun of Salvation, and thus
becomes
blessed and happy in this illumination. The quotation which Paul here
makes use
of, therefore, comes in very relevantly to show both the need for the
reproof
and the good effects of such a reproof by the grace of God.
Things
demanded by the correctness of the Christian walk: V.15. See, then, that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as
wise, v.16.
redeeming the time, because the days are evil. V.17.
Wherefore, be ye not unwise, but understanding what
the will of the Lord
is. V.18. And
be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the
Spirit, v.19. speaking to
yourselves
in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in
your he
art to the Lord; v.20. giving
thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our
Lord
Jesus Christ; v.21. submitting
yourselves one to another in the fear of God. The
apostle continues his admonition to the Christians to walk as the
children of
light, since such behavior on their part will always serve to impress
the
unbelievers: Take heed, then, carefully how you walk, not as unwise
men, but as
wise. Christians should exercise all diligence, watch over their entire
life
with great diligence. Every step of their way through life must be
taken with
deliberate carefulness, lest in, showing themselves wise in the sense
of
Scriptures, in using the proper means for right ends, they forget the
caution
demanded by the situation and thus become unwise. For this reason they
should
also make proper use of their time, literally, take advantage of every
opportunity, because the days are evil. It may sometimes cost the
believers
something in self-denial to speak to unbelievers of God and Christ, to
rebuke
their evil ways, and to show them the one way of salvation, especially
since the
days are-evil, and therefore do not seem appropriate for such works of
love. The
general opposition of the world against the Gospel of Christ is a
hindering
factor. Opportune moments are rare and should he grasped immediately.
For this
cause also the Christians should not become foolish, devoid of
understanding.
They are wise in the knowledge of the will of God and should therefore
shun
everything that tends to take away the understanding which they
possess.
Discerning they should be; they should learn to distinguish very
carefully, mark
with Christian jealousy, just what at this time, in this place, under
the
present conditions, is the will of the Lord. This is true in general,
in the
entire life of the Christians, as well as in particular, in the conduct
of the
Christians toward their environment. Note: It is this admonition which
should be
heeded with far greater diligence in our day, when people that claim to
be
believers are accommodating themselves to the ways of the world instead
of
observing the boundary line with the strictness demanded by the Lord.
The will
of the Lord must decide in any situation, not questions of expediency.
In
order that Christians may retain the sane composure necessary for their
calling
in this world, the following is necessary, of course: And be not
inebriated with
wine, wherein is excess, but be filled with the Spirit. People that are
addicted
to wine, that are given to an excess of strong drink, cannot make use
of sane
judgment; for intemperance results in dissoluteness, in an abandoned,
debauched
life, in a condition where the calm use of the enlightened reason is
out of the
question. Believers will rather at all times strive to be filled with
the Spirit
of God, in whose power they are able to walk in the light, to avoid the
works of
darkness, to inquire in all things for the will of God. The inspiration
and
enlightenment of the Spirit should govern the entire life of the
Christian.
As
an excellent aid toward attaining to this state and remaining in it,
Paul
mentions: Speaking one to another in psalms and hymns and spiritual
songs,
singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord. In the Old
Testament
Psalms, as they were used in the services of the Christians from
earliest times,
in the hymns or chorals which were intended for use in public services,
in
spiritual songs of a more general tone and nature, but quite distinct
from the
worldly lyrics and odes, the Christians should edify one another. Would
that
this admonition were heeded more by the Christians of our days, in
order that
the great mass of incredibly vapid and unspeakably silly ragtime and
jazz pieces
would disappear and remain absent from all Christian homes! For true
disciples
of Jesus should edify and teach one another also by means of the songs
which
they sing, not only in public worship, but also in their homes. Both in
public
hymns of praise and thanksgiving and in the jubilant exulting of the
believing
heart which continues without interruption, all glory should be given
to the
Lord for His boundless mercy and goodness. By such singing, praying,
confessing,
heart and mind are lifted up as on mighty wings of joy, and the
spiritual life
is refreshed and steadied. For surely there is reason enough: Giving
thanks
always for all things, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, to God and
the
Father. The constant mercy and goodness of God makes thanksgiving a
constant
duty. There is never a time when a Christian has no occasion to give
thanks to
God, his heavenly Father, in Jesus Christ, his Lord, with heart and
hand and
voice, for His fatherly care, also on the days that seem dark. And
where this
thanksgiving arises from the believing heart, there is joy in the
Spirit, joy in
the Lord, power for every good work. This relation to God will, in
turn,
determine the relation of the Christians toward one another: Subjecting
yourselves one to another in the fear of Christ. The love toward God
and Christ
which rules in the hearts of believers naturally finds its expression
in a life
of service toward their neighbor. The interests of the other are
considered on
the same level as one’s own, one believer endeavoring to prefer the
other in
honor, and all out of reverence for Christ, who did not come to be
ministered
unto, but to minister. Cp. Rom. 12, 10; Gal. 5, 13.
The Duties of Husbands and
Wives as
Shown by the Relation of Christ to the Church. Eph. 5, 22-33.
The
exhortation with its basis: V.22. Wives,
submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord; v.23. for the husband is the
head of the wife, even as Christ is the Head of the Church; and He is
the Savior
of the body. V.24. Therefore,
as the Church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own
husbands
in everything. V.25. Husbands,
love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and
gave Himself for it, v.26. that
he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
v.27.
that he might present it to
Himself a glorious Church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such
thing, but
that it should be holy and without blemish. Of this
entire section it has been stated that “it gives the Christian
ideal of the marriage-relation, It is the loftiest conception of that
relation
that has ever come from human pen, and one than which no higher can be
imagined.” Expanding the thought of the last admonition, the apostle
writes:
Wives, to your own husbands be subject as to the Lord. To their own
husbands, to
the men with whom they have entered into the relationship of holy
wedlock,
Christian wives give subjection. This they do, not unwillingly, as in
the
obedience of a forced submission, but by virtue of their willing
consent at the
time of the betrothal; for they are not subject to the husband as their
lord and
master, but “as to the Lord,” that is, as to Christ. Just as Christian
women
are, by virtue of faith, in a state of submission to Christ. so the
obedience
which they render to their husbands is one rendered to Christ, the
Christian
husband being the head of the wife and typifying to her Christ, the
Head of the
entire Christian Church: For the husband is the head of the wife, just
as also
Christ is the Head of the Church, Himself being the Savior of the body.
In the
case of Christ it is a matter both of superiority and of headship, for
He is
both God and the Savior of the body; His Church, the Christians, having
accepted
Him by faith, they have individually and collectively become the
members of His
body, the communion of saints, united in one great organism. In the
case of the
husband not all points of comparison can be stressed. It may not be a
question
of superiority, but it is always very distinctly a question of
headship. It is
God’s will that the husband be the head of the wife; the provision made
at the
time of creation is thus confirmed for the time of the Few Testament.
Just
how far this relation will extend in the sense as here given, is stated
by the
apostle: Nevertheless, as the Church is subject to Christ, so also the
wives to
the husbands in everything. The apostle makes no concessions to modern
overemancipntion, neither does he give to the husband unlimited
latitude. The
meaning of the apostle is this: The fact that Christ is the Savior of
the Church
in no way affects the fact that He is also the Head of the Church; now,
though
the husband is not the savior of the body, the question of obedience
for all
that is not affected thereby; as the Church is subject to Christ, so,
too, are
wives subject to their husbands. It is expressly stated that this is to
be in
all things, the wife thus not being given permission to make arbitrary
exceptions. But it is self-evident that the headship of man is confined
to the
matters of this life only. So far as the sphere of Christianity is
concerned,
there is neither male nor female, for ye are all one in Christ Jesus,
Gal. 3,
28.
On
the part of the women it is a matter of voluntary submission in a
relation to
their husbands which is compared to that of the Church to Christ. Being
coheirs
with the men of the hope of salvation, they might he inclined to demand
equality
in the marital relation and life: in answer to such thoughts the
headship of the
husbands was emphasized. On the part of the men the danger consisted in
assuming
an overbearing lordship, in deeming themselves authorized to make use
of
severity. To them St. Paul saps: Husbands, love your wives, just as
Christ also
loved the Church and offered Himself up for it. The apostle wants the
husbands
to show their love for their wives in their actions at all times; it
should be
an active, willing love. The apostle does not introduce a reason for
this love,
since its presence is assumed on the basis of the order of creation,
but he
offers the highest example and comparison that could be conceived of.
The chief
proof of the love of Christ for the congregation consisted in this,
that He
offered up Himself, that He sacrificed His own life for the Church, in
the
interest of the Church, for the expiation of sins. The redemption was
merited
for the whole world, but only in the case of the believers is it
actually
realized; and so the vicarious work of Christ, the supreme proof of His
love, is
here represented as having taken place in the interest of the Church.
And the
result of this work, as it actually appears in the life of the
believers, is:
That He might sanctify it, cleansing it by the washing of the water in
the word.
It is not only justification that the apostle speaks of here, he is
referring
not merely to the righteousness and perfection which was imputed to
every
believer at the time of His conversion, but he is speaking of the
sanctification
which is going on in the Church, having been begun in the believers in
their
baptism to be perfected on the last day. Christ consecrated His Church,
set it
apart for Himself. And this He did by cleansing each member of the
Church by the
miraculous washing of water, by the sacrament of Holy Baptism. For this
water is
not simple water only, as Luther very correctly writes, but the water
comprehended in God's command and connected with God's word. The water
of
Baptism cleanses from the corruption of inherited sin, it has the power
to
regenerate, to renew heart and mind, the nature of man. Cp. Rom. 6, 3;
Col. 2,
12; Titus 3, 5.
The
final object of the sanctifying done by Christ is given in the second
dependent
clause: That He Himself might present to Himself the Church, glorious,
not
having spot, or wrinkle, or any of such things, but that it should be
holy and
unblamable. Christ, as the Bridegroom, having purchased the Bride with
His blood
and having cleansed all believers, the members of the Church, by the
water of
Baptism, now presents or sets forth His Bride. The sanctification of
this
present time will reach its climax in the final glorification, when the
Kingdom
of Grace will become the Kingdom of Glory, when the Church Militant
will become
the Church Triumphant. “Christ presents the Church to Himself, He and
no
other, to Himself. He does it. He gave Himself for it. He sanctifies
it. He,
before the assembled universe, places by His side the Bride purchased
with His
blood. He presents it to Himself a glorious Church. That is glorious
which
excites admiration. The Church is to be an object of admiration to all
intelligent beings, because of its freedom from all defects and because
of its
absolute perfection. It is to be conformed to the glorified humanity of
the Son
of God, in the presence of which the disciples on the mount became as
dead men,
and from the clear manifestation of which, when Christ comes the second
time,
the heavens and the earth are to flee away. God has predestined His
people to be
conformed to the image of His Son. And when He shall appear, we shall
be like
Him, for we shall see Him as He is, 1 John 3, 2. The figure is
preserved in the
description here given of the glory of the consummated Church. It is to
be as a
faultless bride; perfect in beauty and splendidly adorned. She is to be
without
spot or wrinkle or any such thing, i.e., without anything to mar her
beauty,
free from every indication of age, faultless and immortal. What is thus
expressed figuratively is expressed literally in the last clause of the
verse,
that it should be holy and without blame.” (Hodge.)
Further
application of the comparison: V.28. So
ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his
wife
loveth himself. V.29. For
no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth it,
even as
the Lord the Church; v.30. for
we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. V.31.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and
mother, and shall be
joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. V.32. This is a great
mystery; but I speak concerning Christ and the Church. V.33.
Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so
love his wife even
as himself, and the wife see that she reverence her husband. The
apostle here returns to his comparison: Even so ought husbands to love
their own
wives as their own bodies. It is not a matter of choice, but of
obligation, of
duty. It is true indeed that mere human beings cannot love their
spouses with
the same measure of love which Christ showed in His solicitude for the
Church.
But every Christian husband can and should have the lave of Christ for
the
Church as an example before His eyes always; he should be willing to
make
sacrifices for the sake of his wife; he should always be ready to
strengthen his
wife, as the weaker vessel, in all good things. But Paul here expressly
states
that men have the duty of loving their wires, because a man's wife is
his flesh
by virtue of the marital relationship. It is thus a self-evident duty
which Paul
is trying to inculcate: He that loves his wife loves himself. It
follows,
therefore: For no one ever hated his own flesh, but every one nourishes
and
cherishes it, just as Christ also the Church. What Paul implies is that
there
surely is no need of reminding a man of the duty which he owes to his
own flesh
and blood, to his very own body. He takes the very best care of it, he
covers
and protects it. So the Christian husband will comport himself toward
his wife
in providing for her needs, both as to food and shelter, physical and
moral. And
here again the apostle brings out the example of Christ, whose
nourishing and
cherishing love toward the believers is so abundantly substantiated in
Scripture
and in personal experience. By way of explanation Paul here adds: For
we are
members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones. We Christians owe
our
existence, especially in spiritual matters, to Christ; by and through
our
conversion we became His members, we have His Spirit, His life, within
us, we
are connected with Him by the most intimate bonds of fellowship. As the
wife in
marriage becomes one flesh with her husband, so we, the members of the
Church,
the Bride of Christ, are united with our Bridegroom, deriving from Him
our
spiritual life and power at all times.
Returning
now to the thought of v.28, Paul refers to the order of God in creating
the
estate of holy matrimony: For this cause shall a man leave father and
mother,
and shall cleave unto his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. Cp.
Gen. 2,
24; Matt. 19, 5. Here the fact that the wife is one flesh with her
husband is
supported by Scriptural proof. That is the plan, the design, of God.
Marriage
having been entered upon, former relations and considerations are
altered, are
placed secondary to this new relation between husband and wife. The
wife is
thereafter the man's own body, and upon him devolves the duty which the
apostle
has set forth in such a convincing manner.
The
apostle is now ready to draw double conclusion from the discussion. So
far as
the example of Christ and the Church is concerned which he has adduced,
he
writes: This mystery is great; -I speak, however, with reference to
Christ and
the Church. That marriage is here not called a sacrament, as the Romish
Church
teaches, is shown by the very words of Paul, who declares that He is
speaking of
Christ and the Church, and not of the estate of holy matrimony. But
that is a
mystery, a secret of faith, that Paul should use the relation obtaining
between
Christ and the Church as a type of the relation as it should obtain in
holy
wedlock, as he has set it forth in the preceding verses. No one but an
inspired
writer could have made the comparison in that way and attached to the
comparison
such solemn admonitions. But Paul has now said enough of that, so he
concludes:
Nevertheless (not to say more of that higher union), see that you,
every one of
you for his own person, so love his own wife as himself; the wife, on
the other
hand, reverence the man. There is no evading the issue here, and no
excuses are
acceptable. Each and every husband is under the express obligation to
love his
wife, no matter whether he encounter the difficulty of a temper or of
some other
unpleasantness. And so far as the wife is concerned, her position
requires her
to be obedient to the husband in reverent fear, which, on her side,
also
proceeds from love and is milling to overlook human frailties. It is
mutual
love, mutual understanding which will solve all the problems of married
life, if
both husband and wife are actuated and governed by the fear of the Lord.
Summary.
The apostle warns the Ephesians against walking in the impure lusts of
the
Gentiles, their calling obligating them to walk as the children of
light, with
all circumspection; he admonishes both husbands and wives to be
diligent in
their duties toward each other by holding before them the comparison of
Christ’s love toward the Church, His Bride.